Friday was the 43rd annual event of the March for Life, a pro-life march to support women and babies. New Vice President, Mike Pence, spoke at the begging on the march at the Washington Monument saying "Life is winning in America and today is a celebration in that progress,We’ve come to a historic moment in the cause of life and we must approach it with with compassion for every American. Life is winning in America because of you.
"Let this movement be known for love," he added to thunderous applause. "Not anger. For compassion. Not confrontation."
His words got me thinking about how we discuss this topic. It's hard to know where your mom friends stand on this issue, and no one wants a screaming match at the play ground. Pro- life and Pro Choice are like two parents in the middle of an ugly divorce. Neither of them wants to give an inch and they both think they are right. Its a very emotionally charged issue and one that is close to the hearts of many moms. So lets get to the fight and break it down. The decision on which side of this issue you are on usually comes down to choice.
Pro Choice supporters proclaim that a women has a right to CHOOSE what to do with her body. If she makes the choice to end a pregnancy that is okay because the choice belongs to her. This idea was justified by the supreme court in 1973, in Roe vs. Wade. According to Roe vs Wade:
Both are good arguments and can be deemed reasonable when looking at it on paper. If you are the victim of a rape, or make a bad choice one night, you might have a different perspective than someone who has tried for years to get pregnant. The circumstances of your life can weigh heavily on your perspective regarding this issue. In the end you make a choice to say "I believe a women's right to choose outweighs a baby's right to live" or "I believe baby's right to live outweighs what a woman wants". Sometimes the answer is not always black or white.
No matter what side of the line you stand on regarding abortion there are some things that I believe we can all agree on.
Why Should this issue be important to you as a MOM?
Odds are this issue will never go away. Depending on which party holds political power and who is nominated to the supreme court the issue or Pro-Choice and Pro-Life will continue to be a hot button in our society. Their is nothing I can do about that. What I can do as a mom is educate my children. I can make sure that my sons know how to prevent pregnancy responsibly until they are ready to be fathers. I can teach my boys to be men and be responsible for their actions. I can teach my sons the value of life and how to make the best of everything not just the things they plan for. Above all I can teach them to love.
How to talk to your mom friends about this issue:
This is always a hard issue to discuss. When talking to others I advise that you start by not telling other people why they are "wrong". When you dismiss someone's feeling or ideas it immediate puts them on the defense. Start by asking why they feel the way they do? Ask for an example that supports their ideas. If possible point out something they have said that you both can agree on so you have a point of common ground. Express your own view, and give examples to support your opinion. End the topic with mutual respect. When you express your feeling while being respectful of the other person they leave the conversation thinking about your words and ideas not how angry you made them. Hopefully they will take something positive away from the conversation.